Marital Hibernation


When you love someone enough, you go above and beyond to show that live to them; even to the point of death….whether sacrificially in the physical, or emotionally as in the death of a relationship for the betterment of their eternal livelihood. For me, what I’m about to write about may prove to cause the latter. Lord your will, not mine…..

It has been said to us in scripture from our first day of existence; “For we are the temple of the living God; just as God said, “I will dwell in them and walk among them; And I will be their God, and they shall be My people.
17 “Therefore, come out from their midst and be separate,” says the Lord. “And do not touch what is unclean; And I will welcome you.
18 “And I will be a father to you, And you shall be sons and daughters to Me,” says the Lord Almighty.”

We, as God’s children, are meant to be in constant, non-ending relationship with Him as He dwells within us. We are never meant to separate from Him; even though we try to emotionally and spiritually, He is apart of us!

How is this suppose to affect our relationships outside of ours with Him? Bottom line: WITHOUT GOD INVOLVED FULLY IN THE RELATIONSHIP AS THE CENTER BY OUR OBEDIENCE TO HIS WORD, THE RELATIONSHIP WILL DIE.

Why do I say this sold boldly? Genesis 2:22-24 God designed for man and woman to be united as ONE intertwined with Him! “The Lord God fashioned into a woman athe rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man.
23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.”
24 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.”

A covenant, an eternal bond, a union designed and made by God for His glory! When we break the covenant that God made with us from the beginning, which in a way we all have, His judgement will come.

“For their heart was not steadfast toward Him,
Nor were they faithful in His covenant.” Psalm 78:37

“For thus says the Lord God, “I will also do with you as you have done, you who have despised the oath by breaking the covenant.” Ezekiel 16:59

So we understand the consequences of our actions from God’s declarations in the OT; where does Jesus fit in to all of this? To those of us that say, we are forgiven by His blood and that His grace for us looks past our mistakes….consider this:

“For not even the Father judges anyone, but He has given all judgment to the Son,
23 so that all will honor the Son even as they honor the Father. He who does not honor the Son does not honor the Father who sent Him.
24 “Truly, truly, I say to you, he who hears My word, and believes Him who sent Me, has eternal life, and does not come into judgment, but has passed out of death into life.” John 5:22-25

If you claim to believe in Jesus and all that He is and stood for, then you are also believing in the Father who sent Him; meaning that you believe what His Father said before Him! But it goes deeper than that; Jesus uses the word HONOR, which is a passionate belief. A privilege given to us that we seem to take way too lightly.

The Apostle Paul goes to the final decree in scripture summarizing the NEED to follow the words, guidance and keeping your faith in all that Christ has stated.

“Dear friends, if we deliberately continue sinning after we have received knowledge of the truth, there is no longer any sacrifice that will cover these sins. There is only the terrible expectation of God’s judgment and the raging fire that will consume his enemies. For anyone who refused to obey the law of Moses was put to death without mercy on the testimony of two or three witnesses. Just think how much worse the punishment will be for those who have trampled on the Son of God, and have treated the blood of the covenant, which made us holy, as if it were common and unholy, and have insulted and disdained the Holy Spirit who brings God’s mercy to us. For we know the one who said, “I will take revenge. I will pay them back.” He also said, “The Lord will judge his own people.” So do not throw away this confident trust in the Lord. Remember the great reward it brings you! Patient endurance is what you need now, so that you will continue to do God’s will. Then you will receive all that he has promised. (Hebrews 10:26-30, 35, 36 NLT)

As this pertains to all that Christ has told us; this is specific today to my cry out to those “Christians” who choose to cohabitate before marriage. The world has beaten down what marriage is. Almost totally taking from God the importance of His covenant being made instead of the legality within the world.

As Paul stated, “Patient endurance is what you need now, so that you will continue to do God’s will. Then you will receive all that he has promised.” He has promised a blestful relationship with someone on earth that is grounded in His foundation of LIFE! Patient endurance doesn’t mean that we will be patient in the bed of another (not your spouse) and see how it works!

If you feel God is blessing your efforts in a relationship and it feels right, brings Him a much do honor in your actions; then please pray that your actions are a mimic to what He expects of us! Honor God and His covenant and wait fervently if His will calls for it in your life.

Marriage can be again what it was meant to be if we, as His children, would set the obedient standard.



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